We all know the struggle it is to teach the kids to pick up after themselves. It seems like the first few younger years of life they’re only objective is to drive you crazy with how many spills they can make, dirty clothes they can pile up in a day, or how many legos they can leave on the floor for you step on despite the MANY times you’ve yelled “CLEAN UP THIS ROOM!” That’s just THEIR mess. It’s not including the house maintenance that needs to be done consistently especially when you have a big family like ours. All that work can drive any person crazy not to mention it can be extremely time consuming and leave you with little to no time for yourself while the kids are happy go lucky as you’re being their Cinderella. How about NO!
When our family was smaller and my husband and I just had our 2 boys chores were still an issue to get them to do consistently, but it was way more manageable since we lived in a small apartment. There wasn’t that much work to be done and the ratio for kids to adults were matched. However, once our daughter was born, we added our 3 nieces into the family, and we moved into a 4 br house all within’ a year the upkeep on chores, kids, homework, fighting, and bickering became to much to bare for me. So after finally getting fed up of working my butt off to try to keep up with it all by myself I decided it was time for ALL the kids to get designated chores and learn to be more responsible, appreciative, and learn new life skills. Which was the best decision I made!! Now of course you still will have to deal with the occasional moans and groans from time to time, but by having a system in place it allows you to be able to delegate the some of the responsibilities off of your shoulders and teaches the family to work together as a team.
How soon should you start your kids on chores?
My opinion…The younger the better!! As I mentioned earlier we have a total of 6 kids that we’re raising right now (soon to be in July.) The age ranges from youngest to oldest are 15, 11, 8,6,4, and 23 months old. Wait what?!?! Yup that’s not a typo. So we have a WIDE age range and I can tell you from experience that the earlier you teach the kids to pick up after themselves and learn to help around the house the better it will be for you and for them in the long run. I’ll give you an example.
When our nieces first came to live with us we noticed that they weren’t used to cleaning up after themselves whatsoever at least not the younger ones (they were 5 and 3 at the time). It was mainly done by my eldest niece (14 at the time). So getting them to clean up and follow directions was a big struggle in the beginning and can still be from time to time, but now that they’re in a consistent routine and understand they need to help clean up too it’s been MUCH easier. Now my daughter Nayeli is the baby and even though she’s small she does her share of helping clean up around the house just like the oldest one. Now does she have designated chores?? No, but she does help with putting dishes away when she sees one of us doing it, she LOVES to help you sweep and MUST be the one to take the dust pan to the garbage when it’s time otherwise she throws a fit. She also helps when it comes time to pick up toys, fold clothes (she tries, but yea you have to end up fixing it), and throws her own diapers away.
Why is there such a difference in actions when the other 2 are years older??
It’s because we started EARLIER. The baby doesn’t know anything different, because we’ve never taught her anything different. S